If we are so set in our hearts not to face difficult situations, God will actually release us even though it is not His perfect will. In Numbers 22, Balaam wanted to curse Israel because there were great rewards for him personally. He asked the Lord the first time if he could go, and God showed him that His will for Balaam was not to go. When the princes of Moab returned with more money and honor, Balaam went to God again. This time, God said to go with them. Why did God change his mind? The answer is that God did not change his mind. Balaam was so set on going that God let him go. That is why His anger was aroused against Balaam when he did go.
It was God’s Will that Israel be ruled by God Himself, and not by a human king like the heathen nations. But Israel wanted to be ruled by a human king instead of God, so God answered their prayer, even though it was against God’s Will (1 Samuel 8).
In 2 Kings 20:1-6, God told Hezekiah he was going to die that very night. But Hezekiah prayed to God and God changed His Will and added fifteen years to Hezekiah’s life.
We can pester the Lord regarding something for which he has already shown us His will. He will then allow us to do what we want even when it is against His Will, even when it is not in our best interest. Often, God’s plan causes us to face hurts and attitudes we don’t want to face. Yet we run from the very thing that will bring strength to our lives. Refusing to deal with an offense will not free us from the problem. It will only give us temporary relief. The root of the problem remains untouched.